As usual, I’ve been thinking about perspectives lately, particularly which ones lead to success. There are so few, and none of them seem to be common among the fat loss set, but they’re not terribly hard to change with a little effort.
One perspective that I’ve literally never seen lead to anything but eventual failure is the one in which a woman is constantly at war with her body.
She believes her body has betrayed her. It is the enemy and it must be beaten into submission and brought into line. She vacillates between rallying her forces for the next charge and mourning her losses in her most recent defeat. The cycle is endless.
Fortunately, there’s another way. A much better way.
Jeanette, one of my amazing clients, sent me this recently in an email:
“Finally returned home after a very long day. I was going to wait until tomorrow to send this check-in, but had a powerful realization in the car on the way home and wanted to write it down for myself before I forgot the details.
Listening to the radio, I heard a new “fight song”. Something with the feel of a Rocky movie – me against the world – you can do anything you put your mind to – type of song. Normally, I’d make a note of the song and add it to my motivation playlist. I use this playlist, along with quotes taped up around the house, in my car, and in my pantry, to keep myself geared up for the fight I was in to get healthy. But tonight, I realized — wait… why do I need this fight mentality? Who am I fighting against? … myself?…my lack of willpower? This isn’t a fight. I am just changing how I use food to fuel my body instead of my emotions. That’s it. There’s so much more I can do with my time and energy than stay geared up for a fight. That’s so liberating!!!!!”
Naturally, I was ecstatic when I read this! It’s epiphanies like this one that make people bulletproof. While others are out trying to tweak their calories or find a magic fat-burning heart rate at the gym, Jeanette is seeing the big picture in ways that will keep her on the right path forever. Her progress has been nothing short of amazing to watch.
But what about you? Are you fighting your body? Do you need excitement, motivating songs, and trite Instagram memes about how strong you are in order to stay on track?
Or, are you simply treating yourself with respect and compassion in each decision because you deserve to be healthy and happy?
One of those paths will slowly dwindle away until you are left standing in the middle of nowhere. The other leads to the most awesome version of you.